The Divorced Girl Smiling Podcast

Coparenting is difficult in any situation. But talking to your ex about the kids gets a whole lot more challenging if you have feelings of anger and hurt. How are you supposed to have a conversation and pretend like you don't want to explode to the person who has hurt you so deeply? My guest in this episode is Colleen Breems, divorce attorney and partner at Beermann. Colleen offers practical tips for those who are hurting and trying to coparent. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-tips-for-coparenting-with-someone-who-hurt-you/

Taking accountability isn't easy for a lot of people. But if you are someone who is self-aware, there is a healthy way to take accountability versus having toxic guilt. My guest in this episode is Dr. Ginny Wright, Discernment Counselor Master Practitioner, who explains the difference between these two, and offers advice for those wanting to grieve their divorce in a healthy way and move on. Read Ginny's article on this subject: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/toxic-guilt-versus-healthy-accountability-in-divorce/

Hurt, pain, and anger are emotions that can cause a divorcing spouse to disengage and just stop talking to you. Receiving the silent treatment can not only feel hurtful, but it can slow the divorce process, and hinder good co-parenting arrangements. My guests in this episode are Catherine Shanahan, CDFA® and Karen Chellew, Co-founders of the well-known divorce preparation platform, My Divorce Solution. These amazing women (who both went through a divorce) explain reasons the silent treatment can happen and what you can do to cope. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-wont-talk-to-me-makes-co-parenting-pretty-darn-difficult/

When people are first separated, many tend to say things like, "We are going to do this amicably" and "We are going to figure this out together." In other words, they have the best intentions. But as my guest explains, a lack of education can really derail things. My guest is Kimberly Miller, Co-Founder of her divorce education platform, PartWise, and she tells the story of a couple whose divorce conflict escalated quickly because they didn't know the facts. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-kitchen-table-divorce-that-failed-from-lack-of-education/

Theresa Viera and her mom are victims and survivors of domestic violence. Theresa, now a successful divorce attorney, tells her devastating story of growing up in a household of domestic violence and how she and her mom escaped and thrived. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/a-story-of-domestic-violence-written-by-a-mom-and-survivor/

There are so many changes that go with getting divorced, and that can cause fear and anxiety. My guest in this episode is Women's Empowerment Coach, Shannon McGorry, who explains how change can affect you in a divorce. Shannon and I also offer tips on not only coping with change, but truly learning how to become empowered. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/fear-of-change-during-divorce-reclaiming-your-power/

Divorce anger and resentment is understandable and unavoidable. But if not managed in the right way, these things can have a big negative impact on your kids. Conflict truly can hurt them, not just during the divorce but for a lifetime. My guest in this episode is Erica Speraw, Divorce Attorney and Peacemaker, who talks about the impact, and also offers tips on reducing it. 

If you are a women in your fifties, you will LOVE this episode! My guest is Michèle Heffron, Life Love and Divorce Coach, and Michèle interviewed dozens of women in this age bracket to find out what they had to say about life. The information is revealed in this episode, and Michèle and I give our two cents, as we are both women over 55! Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/women-over-55-speak-what-were-carrying-what-we-fear-and-what-were-finally-ready-to-claim/

So many people getting divorced see the process as a power struggle, and look at it as winning or losing. My guest in this episode is high-conflict divorce coach, Cherie Morris, who tells us why divorce doesn't have to be this way, and how you can be genuinely effective coparents while still getting what you want in the divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dont-blow-it-in-mediation-how-to-step-out-of-the-power-struggle-and-into-a-better-future/

So many divorcing couples have the best intentions of an amicable divorce. But then, something happens and the divorce goes off-track. Suddenly, the "good" divorce becomes very rocky. To talk about this is my guest, Fabianna Laby, a clinical psychologist, who offers the 6 stations of divorce and how they can play a role in why this happens. Read the article: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-even-a-good-divorce-can-suddenly-go-off-track/